Writing a will is one of the most caring things you can do for your loved ones. But once it’s written, the next step — talking about it — can be just as important.
At Coastal Legacy, we often meet clients across Hampshire, Fareham, Gosport, and Portsmouth who have created thoughtful wills but haven’t shared their plans with their families. While it’s a personal choice, having that conversation can bring peace of mind and prevent future misunderstandings.
Here’s why it matters, and how to approach it with confidence and sensitivity.
1. It Prevents Confusion Later On
One of the main reasons families experience tension after someone’s passing is simply because they didn’t know what was in the will.
By talking openly about your decisions, you can:
- Explain the reasoning behind your choices
- Avoid surprises or hurt feelings later
- Ensure everyone understands your wishes
When your family knows what to expect, they can focus on supporting one another rather than worrying about “what you would have wanted.”
2. It Encourages Practical Planning
Discussing your will gives your loved ones clarity about:
- Where your will is stored
- Who your executors are
- How to access important documents and accounts
This practical knowledge makes everything simpler when the time comes. At Coastal Legacy, we always recommend letting at least one trusted person know where your will is stored and how to contact us if needed.
3. It Helps Avoid Family Disputes
Misunderstandings about inheritance are one of the most common causes of family conflict.
Having an open, honest conversation now allows you to:
- Explain any unequal gifts or special bequests
- Provide context for your decisions
- Ensure everyone understands your intentions clearly
Transparency helps maintain harmony and keeps families united — even during difficult times.
4. It Provides Emotional Reassurance
Talking about your will isn’t just about money or property — it’s about showing love and care.
Your family will know you’ve taken time to protect their future, which can bring comfort and reassurance. It also gives them a chance to ask questions or share their own wishes for the future.
5. How to Start the Conversation
Starting the discussion can feel awkward at first, but it doesn’t have to be. You might begin with something gentle, such as:
“I’ve been getting my affairs in order recently — nothing to worry about, but I wanted to make sure you all understand my plans.”
Or:
“I’ve written my will with Coastal Legacy, and I’d like to share where it’s kept and what it covers, just so everything’s clear.”
Choose a relaxed setting — perhaps over a cup of tea — and focus on reassurance rather than formality.
6. Involve a Professional if Needed
If the topic feels difficult or emotional, we can help guide the conversation.
At Coastal Legacy, our advisors are experienced in helping families discuss sensitive matters with kindness and clarity. We can explain your will’s contents, mediate family discussions, or simply provide the reassurance that everything has been handled properly.
Open Conversations Build Stronger Legacies
Your will represents more than just instructions — it’s an expression of care. Talking about it ensures that love, not confusion, shapes how it’s remembered.
At Coastal Legacy, we’re here to support you in every step — from writing your will to communicating your wishes with those you care about most.
👉 Contact Coastal Legacy today for friendly, professional advice on will writing and family planning across Hampshire.